Why Love Is The Most Potent Natural Drug Our Bodies Need

How are you today? Gosh it’s been a while since I've written to you. Truthfully, I've been feeling kind of down lately and couldn’t bare the thought of bringing you down with me so I simply wrote down what I was feeling on paper with the intention of posting it some time. Fortunately I didn’t. Now I get to write to you from a slightly better frame of mind.

Life can really throw some bitter lemons in our direction sometimes which can really push a person to either falling or gaining momentum and rising.

We’re able.
We’re stronger than we know.
Most importantly we can and will get through the hurdles life throws our way.
You and I. Both of us. All of us.

One of the hardest and most beneficial things that I’ve ever learnt would have to be finding the strength to see what my failures are and constantly remind myself of the fact: That they’re stepping stones to something greater. After all without them (failures) we’d never learn how to succeed. 

All of us are challenged in different ways. What’s important is making peace with how we handle them (the challenges) as long as the effort is taken to always do better next time with a lesson learnt each time.

I had a short stint *emphasis on short* at a minor business venture. I didn’t excel at it. I was really embarrassed about it actually and wasn’t even going to tell you and then had a change of heart.
Basically it had a lot to do with providing people with things they may need. It turned out that they didn’t need it and all my time and hard work put into it was all for naught (or so it seemed anyhow). Oh well. On to the next one. Venture that is. Though haven’t gotten that far ahead yet.

I was about to explain it all to you then deleted it and decided not to bore you with all the details. Let’s just say that meeting random people at random times takes guts. I’m now in awe of people who ‘make things happen’. Why? Simply because they have something some people lack: Perseverance and a ‘GET IT NOW!’ attitude.

You know what it’s like when you read a piece of brilliance and the words jump off the page and completely resonate with you? Well knowing/feeling is different to ‘experiencing’.
As a person who enjoys my ‘alone time’ and would literally freeze up when it came to any necessary dealings with ‘people’, there is something I learned from this.

What I learned from my short, unsuccessful business stint:

1. That there are good people and bad people. What I mean by that is you have people who choose to do ‘bad’ things and some who choose to do ‘good’. It’s as simple as that.
2. There’s no point trying to get someone who has ‘sealed their mind’ to understand something they don’t have the capacity to (In their current mindset that is). It’s a waste of both the persons’ and more importantly your time.
3. We’ve become so busy living our lives the way we do that we’ve lost the art of ‘connection’. When we walk it’s as though we do anything to avert our eyes just so that we don’t have to look at the person beside us right in the eyes. So we walk with our eyes downcast or with our nose in our phones/tablets/books (Some of us, not all of course).
4. Respect goes for everyone no matter a persons’ position, sex or age. Yesterday I was coming home on the train and it was Halloween(ooo look at some of the pumpkins that were on display too), it was a Friday night, what more could you ask for in terms of wanting to relax and have fun with friends. So as I’m sitting there, a group of three; a gentleman and two young ladies come on the train and sit down in front of me on the right (I’m on the left hand side). They have their drinks and it’s clear they are winding down. This group were really loud. They were almost shouting they were that loud. Obviously those closest to them were irritated though I personally couldn’t say anything because I’ve been guilty of worst when I’m relaxing with friends and so kept reminding myself of that. Anyways some time into the journey a woman stands up and as she’s about to get off the train says to the loud lady in the group; “you’re a horrible person and you need to grow up(& a number of other things)…” then another older man beside them started agreeing with her saying how they are loud ect…now ironically I started feeling bad for the young lady in the group. She looked genuinely bewildered and she sounded really hurt. She went quiet and whispered what’s wrong? Then she muttered how that wasn’t nice and that she couldn’t be that bad to have warranted such a response from the woman. By then the young man in the group started defending her in the most inappropriate way mind you, he started almost shouting without actually saying anything worthwhile. It was embarrassing really.My point is that the woman who started bashing the loud lady was completely out of line. She doesn’t know her to insult her on a personal level. Show respect. Gain respect. It was utterly disrespectful of her lashing out instead of calmly putting her concerns across to the group.She was disrespectful and got disrespect back. If she’d asked cordially and was responded to rudely then I would understand her lashing out. Otherwise why was that called for? No matter a persons’ age, the younger will always follow an older persons’ actions. Always. Just like children. Words are nothing as they follow suit by action. Give respect. Gain respect. It goes both ways. Hence I’m astonished if I see an older person acting unacceptably as it clashes with how I was raised. How do I respect this person when they’ve been blatantly rude to me? Lesson: To gain respect, show it. It really is as simple as that.
5. People who are hostile are usually people who lack A LOT of love. So be compassionate. Even if it feels like pulling teeth. If they were shown and had lots of love then they’d be emanating it. Once they aren’t then either it’s buried somewhere or they don’t have it to begin with. The upside to that is that anyone can be taught and given love. There’s the remedy in itself. Though it may take loads of love to really make a difference.
6. We have this fascinating thing called 'intuition'. We have a sort of radar that alerts us to whether a person is genuine/likes us to when they aren’t/deeply dislike us. There are always both kinds of people. If you come across the latter then… honestly I haven’t figured this one out yet so if you have any ideas don’t hesitate to let us know in the comments section below.
7. Though being social was always hard for me and I still find it challenging, I came to realise that every single person also has his/her troubles that they’re dealing with. And that taking even a second out of my day to direct love a persons’ way just may make the world of difference to them. I know it has for me. I’ve become a lot warmer in the process and have realised other people are too.
8. There will always be someone who can’t stand you for whatever reason and that’s OK. If everyone loved you, THEN you should start to worry. Attracting and repelling go hand in hand. There isn’t one without the other. Don’t try to get people who repel you to like/love you. It’s like getting a polar bear to live in the desert. Not so successful.
   It means your unique. One of a kind. Which is never a bad thing. On the contrary it’s bloody fantastic!
9. Last but not least, we crave love. Attention. Human (attention) that is, not the techno nonsense that’s everywhere lately. I learnt that though not intentional, we(some, not all) have sort of been taught to be superficial and materialistic. So the person with the deeper pockets and better car must be the better person, where as that's far from reality.When you’re walking down the street in an area that isn’t your own, how many times do you notice the cleaning man/lady? Or the security guards at the doors? Or the garbage men/women? Or the construction workers? They/we make the world go round. Now I no longer only notice people around me I notice the ones working around me too and try and grace them with a smile and hello. Some people won’t even bother with a grimace, yet some give me such genuine smiles & energy that I’m left smiling a good minute afterwards with a warm fuzzy feeling all over. Words and no amount of technology can nor ever will change that. And shame on me for not trying harder before.

Wishing you all the love this world has to offer.

Jay