What Some Men Won't Tell You.
Men. To some of us they are the most complicated and irritating, yet effing fabulous creatures of all time.
You know the way a man can come across as being a complete jerk one minute to being a guardian angel the next? It’s one of the things I find fascinating about men.
Things men won’t usually tell you:
(Take note this isn't All men. Men are different individuals. This is a general picture and men may either relate to it or not, at varying degrees.)
Thinking that way really affected how I reacted to men. Which I must admit wasn't positive at times. I would assume things in my head then react accordingly. It only brought me pain and heart break. I had to see the error of my ways and to help remind myself of that, for a while I continuously read: ‘The danger of thinking things in my head that I have no evidence of formulates a solution to a problem that Doesn't exist!'
Do you see all the points I listed above? I feel kind of embarrassed to admit that I used to think the opposite to each one. I would always misunderstand things and form my own opinion on what was going through the guys’ mind at the time. Then I’d act on it. And since what I’d understood was mostly negative, my reactions were so, too. I was never able to get anywhere acting and thinking like that.
I had a gut feeling that something was terribly wrong. The way I’d see and understand men didn't seem to quite ‘Fit’ If you know what I mean. Why is it that everything I understood from men seemed to come from a negative place?
Why is it that they seemed almost alien like to me? I just couldn't ‘Get them!’ or understand them. Get where they’re coming from. Either there was something wrong with the men I came in contact with or I was irrevocably flawed with how I understood and dealt with men. It got to a point where I was fed up of being so clueless and negative about men.
I wanted/needed to know and understand more. So I did. I started to embark on this journey where I’d decided that I was no longer going to approach situations with my eyes closed. I started reading. Self learning. Educating myself on just how men are and why it was that I kept misreading/misunderstanding them. And it took me a few years to truly see the error of my ways. What the mistakes were, how they applied to me and how I could try my best to prevent them from happening again in the future.
I started reading articles by Renee Wade and how we interpret men and our relationships.
After reading and self reflecting it’s then that I came upon the realisation of the points I listed above.
Men truly are exquisite beings.
Now, I couldn't have a more profound love, awe and admiration of men. The way they’re so similar and different from us. In one instant they make me want to tear my hair out and in another, make me irresistibly weak to my knees.
A woman would bitc*bleep* about her man from here to kingdom come yet would turn the world twice over if anyone ever tried getting between her and her man.
Yes men can sometimes be; irritating, gross, vulgar, and sometimes insensitive sexual beasts at times. At others; caring, loving, understanding, sexy and simply awesome beings at others.
So yeah they drive me nuts at the best of times, though that may be, I wouldn't want men any other way!
Now don’t get me wrong there are bitc*e*bleep* and bastar*bleep* of each sex and I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about all of us at the best of times when we’re decent and the best versions of ourselves.
To men: Don’t stop being You. Remain true to who you are and you’ll always be loved by us.
To Women: As a woman I already know how extraordinary you are.
The truth is that as long as we don’t live within another person, we’ll Never know what it’s like being them, experiencing every emotion and feeling as they experience it. Be compassionate. It always works wonders.
Good day to you all, and thanks for reading.
Ciao
You know the way a man can come across as being a complete jerk one minute to being a guardian angel the next? It’s one of the things I find fascinating about men.
Things men won’t usually tell you:
(Take note this isn't All men. Men are different individuals. This is a general picture and men may either relate to it or not, at varying degrees.)
- They feel even more deeply then they let on. Even more so then us, at times.
- They crave for deep connection and understanding too.
- Things Do get to them and they actually do consider things that we may think they don’t really think about.
- Some men are extremely sensitive at heart. Saying the wrong thing goes straight to a man’s core though he’d never admit it.
- They need a balance between being your hero and feeling safe around you so that they can be vulnerable and crumble in your arms, for you to see a side of them they don’t usually reveal.
- Being successful is part of their make-up. Rejecting that part of them for any reason would be no less then you rejecting who they are as men.
- If you’re the woman worth storming a castle for, then he actually Does think and care about your wants and needs more then he could ever let you know.
- Men are beings of ‘Action’. He will show you exactly what he thinks/feels about you through his actions.
- If a man can’t find the words he needs to get an important point across to you, he may feel frustrated about it, clam up and think that it’s better not to say anything at all. Which rightfully doesn't let you know what’s going through his mind and heart at that moment. Though jumping to conclusions and assuming things, is the worst route to go.
- If you fall under that category of him storming that castle for you, then a lot of his time and so much that he does, is for You even if he doesn't remind you of that fact very often.
- Men end up doing and taking a lot of shi*bleep*, sometimes with absolutely no recognition what so ever. So Never forget to genuinely thank and appreciate him for the small/major things he does. When he falls short know when to over look and when to address. All with appreciation for who he is and what he does on a daily basis.
- Men are alpha lions. Battling within their pack. With wins and losses. It may not be so easy to see as women on the outside looking in, it’s there all the same. Words can’t describe just how hard it is being a man 24-7 and the daily struggles they come up against that they don’t have a choice But to overcome.
Thinking that way really affected how I reacted to men. Which I must admit wasn't positive at times. I would assume things in my head then react accordingly. It only brought me pain and heart break. I had to see the error of my ways and to help remind myself of that, for a while I continuously read: ‘The danger of thinking things in my head that I have no evidence of formulates a solution to a problem that Doesn't exist!'
Do you see all the points I listed above? I feel kind of embarrassed to admit that I used to think the opposite to each one. I would always misunderstand things and form my own opinion on what was going through the guys’ mind at the time. Then I’d act on it. And since what I’d understood was mostly negative, my reactions were so, too. I was never able to get anywhere acting and thinking like that.
I had a gut feeling that something was terribly wrong. The way I’d see and understand men didn't seem to quite ‘Fit’ If you know what I mean. Why is it that everything I understood from men seemed to come from a negative place?
Why is it that they seemed almost alien like to me? I just couldn't ‘Get them!’ or understand them. Get where they’re coming from. Either there was something wrong with the men I came in contact with or I was irrevocably flawed with how I understood and dealt with men. It got to a point where I was fed up of being so clueless and negative about men.
I wanted/needed to know and understand more. So I did. I started to embark on this journey where I’d decided that I was no longer going to approach situations with my eyes closed. I started reading. Self learning. Educating myself on just how men are and why it was that I kept misreading/misunderstanding them. And it took me a few years to truly see the error of my ways. What the mistakes were, how they applied to me and how I could try my best to prevent them from happening again in the future.
I started reading articles by Renee Wade and how we interpret men and our relationships.
After reading and self reflecting it’s then that I came upon the realisation of the points I listed above.
Men truly are exquisite beings.
Now, I couldn't have a more profound love, awe and admiration of men. The way they’re so similar and different from us. In one instant they make me want to tear my hair out and in another, make me irresistibly weak to my knees.
A woman would bitc*bleep* about her man from here to kingdom come yet would turn the world twice over if anyone ever tried getting between her and her man.
Yes men can sometimes be; irritating, gross, vulgar, and sometimes insensitive sexual beasts at times. At others; caring, loving, understanding, sexy and simply awesome beings at others.
So yeah they drive me nuts at the best of times, though that may be, I wouldn't want men any other way!
Now don’t get me wrong there are bitc*e*bleep* and bastar*bleep* of each sex and I’m not talking about them. I’m talking about all of us at the best of times when we’re decent and the best versions of ourselves.
To men: Don’t stop being You. Remain true to who you are and you’ll always be loved by us.
To Women: As a woman I already know how extraordinary you are.
The truth is that as long as we don’t live within another person, we’ll Never know what it’s like being them, experiencing every emotion and feeling as they experience it. Be compassionate. It always works wonders.
Good day to you all, and thanks for reading.
Ciao
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